As I read my devotions this morning, it came home to me in a new and fresh way that love is a decision, not a feeling. And it came to me through John's words in 1 John 3:23...
"And this is his commandment, that we...love one another" (1 John 3:23)
What strikes me about this verse is that we are commanded to love one another. And why that's important is because "feelings" cannot be commanded, only "decisions" can be. In other words, we are not being encouraged to feel warm fuzzies toward one another; rather, we are being charged to speak and act toward others in loving ways.
There are plenty of times when I don't feel warm and fuzzy toward others; nevertheless, I am commanded to love them anyway, i.e. I am expected to make decisions about my speech and/or my actions directed toward them that are loving in nature.
Hard to do? Absolutely! But...
"I can do all things through him who strengthens me" (Phil. 4:13)